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Why hasn’t my baby come yet?

Writer's picture: Lauren DionysiusLauren Dionysius


HELLO THERE!

The arrival of a new baby is usually seen as a blessing, a happy addition to the family. But, when a baby hasn’t yet arrived, it can be heartbreakingly painful +/- added guilt and confusion.


So, I want to chat more about this: 1) because it’s the single, most frequent question that women ask and 2) there’s a different perspective available here.


Ask yourself these questions. Have you considered:

👉🏼 The conception of a baby is not solely about you, your desires, your perceived readiness, or your needs?

👉🏼 Your baby has their own autonomy and can choose how, when, and why they come into this world?

👉🏼 The journey of conception, life and death are part of a vast cosmic puzzle and none of us have all of the pieces?


All of us made the decision to come to Earth. While our own parents’ wishes were considered as part of this bigger picture, they did not dictate when we were conceived by our parents. Our soul did. And so do babies’ souls. They have their own reasons, their own purpose, their own wishes, and their own journey—just like the rest of us.


BABIES AS AUTONOMOUS BEINGS

Now, this may sound a little harsh, but it's important to recognise that babies are not merely extensions of you (their parents), or the product of your desires. They are independent beings, each with their unique perspective, and it’s time that we start acknowledging them as such. We often view babies as helpless and vulnerable, but in doing so, we overlook their infinite consciousness that is already present.


Acknowledging that babies have their own autonomy may seem a little unconventional, but it has the potential to reshape our understanding of their role in our lives—and the timing of their arrival. When we recognise that babies are not only here to fulfill our desires but also to fulfill their own purpose, we can begin to appreciate the profound significance of their existence—and why their timing may not align with ours.


WHEN BABIES CHOOSE TO ARRIVE

It’s common to believe that the timing of a baby's arrival is entirely up to chance or solely determined by their parents. However, if we consider that babies have their own autonomy, their own journey, their own agenda, then it makes sense that they choose when to enter our lives. This may not always align with our expectations or timelines, but there’s always a greater purpose behind their decision. Also, we cannot force them to come when they are not yet ready, or a waiting for their soul’s time.


It hurts my heart when women overlook their baby’s perspective, instead believing that there’s something wrong with them physically, that they’re infertile or are being punished in some way. This leads to confusion and frustration believing that conception ‘should have happened by now’. But let’s really think about this: What if conception has far less to do with you than what you've been led to believe? Let's start to shift our perspective from ‘why hasn’t my baby come yet’ to 'I trust in their part of the process too’. By doing so, we acknowledge that babies have their own desires too, which carry just as much weight as our own.


FINAL THOUGHTS

Just as we have our dreams, aspirations, and reasons for our actions, babies also have their own reasons for choosing to be born. Recognising their autonomy means accepting that they have their unique journey, purpose, and lessons to learn. Babies can see things that we cannot, and their reasons for coming (or not coming) into our lives may not always be immediately clear.


Embracing the idea that babies have their own autonomy can transform the way we view their presence in our lives. As we honour our own wants, needs, and expectations, let’s also honour theirs, allowing them the freedom to have the journey that they need too. After all, the beauty of life lies in the interconnectedness of our individual journeys, creating a harmonious balance that transcends time and space.

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